I would not go back, not for a million bajillion dollars. Just reading through this book reminded me how confusing and frustrating dating can be!
I had the opportunity to do a book signing with Chas Hathaway, author of Marriage is ordained of God, but Who came up with Dating? I was so impressed with both Chas and his wife ("the girl who gave me a chance"), two very fun, interesting, and talented people. I had to wonder what makes a book like this come about. I KNOW Chas did a lot of research for the book and in it quotes many of the general authorities, but when I started reading it, I saw that he also uses a lot of his personal experiences. From the very first page, Chas's book is chock full of common sense information for people in (and around) their dating years, which is somewhat embarrassing because Chas introduces concepts I know I never thought about when I was dating. I was such a stupid teenager! (A belated Sorry to everyone I ever dated).
So I sent some questions to Chas and he was good enough to answer them for me. He and I discussed the possibility of doing an audio blog post like he does on his blog (Click here!), but for those of you who know me, you know I ch-ch-choke on stuff like that. So, Chas took pity on me and did it my way.
In the first chapter of your book you say, “You will spend most of your life suppressing and ignoring your attraction to other people (besides your spouse). This is an absolutely invaluable ability…” Can you give my young readers a summary of the concept you explain here?
The teenage years are some of the best for developing abilities and forming personality traits. The discipline young people practice in their teenage years will do more good for their marriage than they know. Only marriages between two loving, disciplined people can and will last forever.
Your next chapter is called “Get some BFFs,” a title that makes me laugh. Why is it so important to have good friends during the dating years?
Don't withhold kindness, service, and loving example to those who have lower standards, but choose your close friends, those with whom you spend the most time, very carefully.
If there was just one piece of advice from your book or just one warning you could give to those who are dating, what would you tell them?
Thanks so much, Chas, for agreeing to do this! What a great book, and I hope it gets into the hands of every teenager who is as stupid as I was (and even those who aren't)!